"This is where daddy is and I tell him daddy's in heaven."
- Nicki Bunting, widow of CPT Brian Bunting, explaining why her 4-year old son Connor calls Arlington National Cemetery 'heaven'.

WASHINGTON, DC – "There was a little bit of a meat skirt, for lack of better words, hanging around the edges. It was oozing. I could see the radius and ulna bone sticking up maybe about half an inch."
Sgt. 1st Class Leroy Petry, who will have the Medal of Honor placed around his neck July 12, 2011, by the president of the United States, recounted the moment after his hand was taken from him by a grenade during a May 26, 2008, combat operation in Afghanistan.
"It was vivid -- where I could see the black marks from where the burns were. And a little bit of the dirt and the smell of explosives. I sat up and I grabbed it. And it's a little strange," Petry said. "But this is what was in my mind: 'Why isn't this thing spraying off into the wind like in Hollywood?'"
After that, the seasoned Army Ranger -- who was at the time on his seventh deployment in support of combat operations both in Iraq and Afghanistan -- had to take charge of his own situation, and of the young Soldiers whom he led.
James T. Hackemer died doing exactly what he wanted to be doing.(See earlier posts about SPC Knapp here.)
That's what the family of the double amputee wants people to know as they mourn his passing. Hackemer, a veteran of the Iraq War, died Friday when he fell from a roller coaster at Darien Lake Theme Park Resort. He was 29.
"I have no doubt in my mind that he died happy," his sister, Jody Hackemer, said Saturday as the family gathered at Hackemer's parents' farmhouse in Gowanda. "I know that's hard to comprehend. But really, he was doing what he wanted to do. And that's the important thing."
The family does not believe the Genesee County theme park did anything wrong in letting the wounded veteran on the ride, the sister said.
"We in no shape or form hold Darien Lake accountable," the sister said. "They weren't negligent. It's nobody's fault. It was an accident. James thought it wasn't an issue."
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He and members of his family had just arrived at the theme park about an hour earlier for a weekend family trip.
Hackemer's sister, Roxanne Luffred, had driven from her home in Maryland with her family and Hackemer's two young daughters, who live most of the time with their mother in Newport News, Va.
Hackemer had custody of the girls -- Kaelynn, 4, and Addison, 3 -- for two weeks every other month. The girls arrived Thursday, and he was thrilled to be spending time with them, his sister said.
He was also determined to get on his favorite ride, the Ride of Steel, at the amusement park, a favorite hangout from his youth. He hadn't been back to the theme park since before he lost his legs in Iraq three years ago.
Hackemer was not wearing his prosthetic legs when he got on the roller coaster, his sister said. He had been getting around the theme park using a wheelchair. Jody Hackemer also said she did not know whether park attendants questioned whether it was safe for her brother to get on.
"I would imagine that they would have and did," she said. But that wouldn't have stopped her brother, she added.
"James was very adamant and strong-willed -- very strong-willed. He knew what he wanted. He's really hard to say no to. I can attest to that."
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But the wounded veteran's family took comfort in knowing that Hackemer had savored every moment of his life since surviving a bomb blast in March 2008.
He nearly died twice as doctors raced to save his life, his family recalled.
"They actually told us he would never wake up," Jody Hackemer said. "And if he did, they said he would be a complete vegetable because of a traumatic brain injury."
After several weeks, James Hackemer proved his doctors wrong. He has spent the last three years doing physical therapy and learning how to get around with a wheelchair and on prosthetic legs.
The wounded veteran was missing both legs and his left hip.
Just two weeks ago, he went to Walter Reed Army Medical Center to be fitted for new prosthetics.
In the meantime, he moved in with his parents in Gowanda. He bought a hand-operated lawnmower and would cut the grass on his family's property. He also enjoyed using a hand-pedaled bicycle and spending time with friends and family.
"He was living and relishing it," his sister said. "He had no regrets of what happened to him. Life was what it was. He had such a great attitude moving forward."
She recalled that her brother was deeply upset when Alex Knapp, another soldier who had lost his legs in the same bomb blast, died in October. He suffered a heart attack after playing sled hockey, which had become his passion after he was wounded.
She said Knapp's death parallels her brother's.
"He was doing what he wanted," she said of her brother. "He wanted nothing but this. He was doing what he loved. That's what gives me peace."
"Not only was he my best friend. He was the best Marine I ever knew," [Harris' squad leader Sgt. Ian] Gilbert said to a crowd gathered in a shelter on the cemetery grounds.
Harris' squad, friends and family then walked to his gravesite. They released balloons, prayed at the headstone and left flowers.
"I love the guy, and you look around, and you see these guys, and they all loved him too," Gilbert said. "And that's why they are here."

FORT WORTH -- It was a reception rarely seen for a corporal.
Hundreds of people waved flags at a parade, then stood in the wilting heat for several hours Wednesday to honor retired Marine Cpl. Zach Briseno, 25, as he was presented with a new house in northwest Fort Worth.
"To see this many people show up, it's amazing," said a visibly moved Briseno, a 2003 graduate of Castleberry High School whose legs were blown off by a roadside bomb in Fallujah, Iraq, in 2007.
Helping A Hero, a nonprofit based in Houston, awarded its 25th handicapped-accessible house, and its first in North Texas, to Briseno, the father of a 5-year-old boy named Eli.
Among the many people who came to welcome Briseno was Mayor Mike Moncrief and retired Marine Capt. Dan Moran, who was grievously wounded and burned in Iraq in 2006 and received a house in Houston from Helping A Hero.
"What you have done," Moran told the crowd, "is make an investment in Zach. Yes, he's given much. But you have made an impact on his future. This isn't charity. You are going to get a return on this investment."